Becoming

When you look around, do you ever feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t have it all figured out?

Like everyone else got the manual for life… and you missed the delivery?

Does Everyone Else Have the Manual for Life?

I used to think I was broken for feeling that way. I saw other men—at work, in the gym, at school pickups—seeming solid, focused, like they knew what they were doing. Meanwhile, I was quietly spinning, unsure of where I was headed, or even who I was becoming.

What No One Tells You About Being a Man

What I’ve come to realize is this: most of us are winging it. 

And yet, we carry this pressure—often unspoken—that we’re supposed to have the answers. That we should already be the man, the husband, the father, the leader we imagined we’d become.  

But the truth?
Even the men who look like they’ve figured it out… haven’t. They’re just quieter about their doubts.

And I’m seeing it all unfold again, in real time, with my son.He’s already soaking up the rules about who he’s supposed to be. And I can feel the weight of that—because I carried it too.

The Moment Everything Shifted

The craziest part?
It took me until I was 38 years old to realize something had to change.
More than that—to decide I wanted change.

I knew the real issue wasn’t “out there.” It was in my mind.
But I had no clue how to shift it. 

No roadmap. Just a heavy awareness that something needed to be different.

That moment—of knowing and still not knowing what to do—was the beginning.
Not of fixing.Not of hustling harder.
But of becoming.
Of the progression of self.

This is what I’ve come to understand….that not knowing is ok.

The Ego Wants Comfort. The Soul Wants Growth.

In redefining what the beginning can look like, it can reset our expectations and bring awareness to choice.

Everything you already know? That just repeats. Same road. Same outcome. It’s the unknown that creates space—for growth, for becoming.But that space is uncomfortable. And that discomfort? 

It’s why most of us shrink back, stick with the familiar, and stay safe.

Makes sense, right? Why reach into a dark hole when there might be a snake in there?

Only thing is… that primal fear doesn’t serve us anymore.

The ego wants comfort.

The soul wants growth.

What does comfort feel like to you?

What does growth feel like to you?

Is there a difference?

If You’re Reading This, You’re Already Ready

Likelihood is your reading this because there’s something in you, buried way down deep that says maybe your done with what is?

When you have a symptom or feel unwell, you may go to someone who is likely to know more like a doctor, homeopath, healer. 

But life fulfilment? Shouldn’t I know how to do that? 

Everyone else I know seems to be nailing it, nice house, new car, photos on Insta of their meals out.  

If you have children and they were struggling with something from school what would you say to them? Would you just expect them to know? 

They don’t teach this:

• So where did the expectation come from?
• Who told you that you should already know?

 If this stirred something in you—don’t rush to fix it. Let it breathe.

Give it a name.

Sit with it tonight.

And ask yourself:

Who am I becoming?

Not based on who you’ve been, or what others expect…But who you truly want to become now.